We all have seen stubborn kids…those eye rolls and adamant to not to participate, to not study and so on. Teachers especially have more than their fair share of these types of behaviors in the classrooms. So, how to deal with overconfident students or those who are extremely stubborn ones.
As students steps into the teenage phase, they tend to act cool and feel that everything they do is right. Often they are over-confident which further leads to huge disappointments. It is easy to feel defeated with a classroom full of overconfident stubborn kids all day long. However, don’t be despair.
First let’s understand, what are the characteristics of an overconfident stubborn child. Often we misunderstood in knowing them hence, we struggle to instill good habits and manners. Understand a strong-willed child is creative and highly intelligent. Such kids will ask a lot of questions which may convey them as rebellion. They have their opinions and would not be ready to listen to what teachers say.
Some of the characteristics are:
- Children are strong-willed hence they need acknowledgment often they want to be heard.
- They are attention seekers
- Kids throw tantrums
- They have strong leadership qualities and can be bossy at times
- They like to do things how they want and at their pace
Dealing with overconfident stubborn teenagers will require an immense level of patience and effort. You need to understand your child’s behavior patterns. We will give you tips which might help in dealing with such teenagers.
Translate The Walk-In A Way They Understand
Bossy kids can be challenging. It is almost impossible to make kids understand the right point of view. Rather, instead of talking about your experience and your patterns make them understand the concepts in a way where they can easily relate to and understand.
The simplest way to make them understand is to use role-play reinforce scenarios where you want your growing children to show some manners and courtesy. Demonstrate how easy it is to instill manners and how it is beneficial to them once they step out in the real world.
Never Abandon Them
Eventually, there will be frustration creeping in. There will be a strong desire to move on from that kid. However, the best teachers will resist their urge and try reinforcing the expectations for the child. So, when the child has a smaller success getting through the school like without any issues or homework. You will recognize the change and appreciate the same with an act of encouragement.
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Taking into consideration the child’s behavior, understand that he/she may be coming from a background that fosters a defiant attitude. Take this into consideration and keep in mind that even though for a smaller period of time you will be stepping into a parenting role.
Offer words of encouragement, and most importantly be there to listen to them. Practice patience as deep inside they are still a kid.
Do Not Yell, Scold or Lecture
Yelling, scolding and lecturing is not going to help or say it will worsen the situation. Especially this will be more damaging if you are doing this towards a particular child in the class in front of others. This will create friction between you and your stubborn students and guarantees that it will worsen their behavior.
Tap Into Their Interest And Allow Their Choices
One of the most simple and effective ways to win over stubborn students is by tapping into their interests. Since you have already spent some time building rapport with your students. By having a comfortable environment will help students to feel safe to share a bit about themselves.
Let your students have choices, and being a teacher you should embrace their choices. This is a good start to engage stubborn students.
Practice Empathy and Lot Of Patience
This is one of the simplest yet effective strategies to implement. However, it requires an immense level of patience with no shortcuts to it. All you have to do is remove yourself from such a tensed situation, realizing that your stubborn student’s behavior isn’t behaving well and this has absolutely nothing to do with you.
If you can see that, you’ll have all the patience and understanding in the world. Student frustration is one of the root cause. If you think you can work with your student practicing patience, not only the situation but you eventually you will see the change in behavior in your student as well.
Use Technology In Your Teachings
No matter what kind of teenagers you are dealing with in today’s world, they all love gadgets. It is something they cannot do without. While dealing with stubborn students try bringing in tools and digital toys wherein they can easily connect with you. This acts as a bridge in an uncomfortable situation. For e.g. in an art class, prefer having digital tools and technology for photorealistic drawings.
Engage them with the tools which will help in easing off the tense situation into a normal one.
When you argue with difficult students, it puts them on equal footing with you, creating a “your word against theirs” situation. This negates the effects of accountability. It also opens the floodgates: everybody will be arguing with you.
Don’t Hold A Grudge
It is obvious to get stubborn children in your class but it is you who have to remember that every day will be the new day for you. And this should be your daily mantra with difficult students.
Your students need to know that they will have a clean start every day and so do you. Say more hellos and smile and let your students know that you you’re happy to see every morning.
Don’t Lose Your Temperament
When you let the stubborn student get under your skin it’s obvious to lose temperament. Even if it is an “eye roll” or a “sigh” it does impact. The student gets the message and with that, there are other students who get affected. All in all, it spoils the classroom atmosphere. Students are likely to push the buttons and they will do it as much for fun. It is important for a teacher to remember to not to lose cool.
Don’t Ignore The Misbehavior
Your class will be always there to look up to you when you are dealing with a stubborn teenager. This sets yourself as a bad example in the class, making it worse. Instead of a difficult student breaks a rule, no matter what do not enforce rules immediately.
Action Plan For The Parents
Teachers will be doing their best to improve your teenage kids. Parents too need to put in efforts as well. Talk to your kids in a more subtle way and let them know that you will be always there for them. Your teenage children are passing through the crucial phase of their lives where everything is blown out of proportion.
Focus on improving manners in your house. Come up with different ideas, where your growing child doesn’t feel like you deliberately instilling good behavior.
For e.g. you can keep a “Manners Month” next month you can keep “Role-Playing Their Favorite Character” and come up with different ways to instill respectful behavior a fun process.
Become your kid’s best friend, keep that in mind so that you won’t have a complaining kid when they become an adult. Treating your teenage children in a similar way that you are treating your friends will help them grow into independent and self-reliant people.
You want your children to form their opinion and be expressive when they are adults. You want them to do better, and successful and be always become a better version. All in all, you want the best for the children so that they can enjoy their life to the fullest. You want them to be independent and able to negotiate but without hurting other people.
So the above-mentioned tips will help you to tone down the overconfident, stubborn teenagers in your class. Teach them how to ask for what they want in a respectful way.